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Hey there! My name is Ian Forest-Jones and I’m really glad to have you visit my site.

There is no denying the task and plight of men is how to become good at being a man. However, for quite a number of years now, I have come to believe it is even more important in contemporary society those good at being men become good men.

What Makes a Good Man?

I am also quite conscious of the fact there are competing opinions on what constitutes a “good man”.

According to Glenn Stanton, “Manhood is not natural, but it is essential … manhood is in crisis today … Men are falling behind women in important measures of personal and social well-being”. He argues quite convincingly that boys are males by nature but only transition into manhood “with significant, intentional work by other men”. In other words, it takes a community of men to raise a man.

Manhood is not natural, but it is essential … manhood is in crisis today.

Glenn Stanton

It Takes a Community

Unfortunately, community is also in crisis in contemporary Western societies. Healthy, functional, safe communities are hard to find because, while everyone agrees we need such, very few are willing to put in the effort to create and maintain them.

One type of community still readily available throughout the Western world is local Christian churches. By accepting males as men —in other words, helping them to become good at being men— I am convinced local churches can earn the right to encourage and equip them to become good men.

To this end, as I pass from one decade of life into another (I turned 50 in 2019) and transition into a new phase of my career, I want to serve men and their families by creating safe spaces for men to talk through issues related to men and manhood, life and meaning; to encourage and equip men for a life of discipleship; and, to facilitate a healthy, functional and safe community of faith for men and their families.

I want to serve men and their families by creating safe spaces for men to talk through issues related to men and manhood, life and meaning; to encourage and equip men for a life of discipleship; and, to facilitate a healthy, functional and safe community of faith for men and their families.

Men and Faith

I know many will disagree, but I have come to believe local churches favour women —for very good and legitimate reasons, of course, yet this is evidence of the plight of men already noted. While this is a contentious issue, a compelling case can be made to support it. If true, this is especially unfortunate since it can be shown that when local churches reach men, they serve women too and build families, thereby leading to a better society.

I wonder then how can I, as an individual Christian and a community leader, encourage and equip those good at being men to become good men, when some are “nones” and some are “dones”? In other words, how can I encourage faith in Jesus among males having little to no prior spiritual or religious convictions, on the one hand, and equip those no longer connected and committed to a local church on the other? How can I partner with both types of men, partnering with them as intrapreneurs so as to impact their neighbourhoods positively?

Growing up, I was a none who became a Christian because God our Creator gave me hope. Yet I have found myself too to be at risk for becoming a done because of my journey with the Church. Nevertheless, I have refined my calling and remain convinced of my faith in Jesus and my commitment to a Christian lifestyle because God is my Father; Jesus is my brother, who accepts me as a friend; and, the Holy Spirit is my mentor.

God is my Father; Jesus is my brother, who accepts me as a friend; and, the Holy Spirit is my mentor.

The following video will give you a good sense of how I came to place my faith in Jesus and committed to a Christian lifestyle, since I was not born nor raised in a Christian family:

As you can see, my upbringing was not something I would wish anyone to endure. Consequently, I am not your typical Christian nor community leader. I do not spend my days in an ivory tower, which is surprising, I know, given I have been in ministry for 25+ years. My faith is real and honest and I too struggle to live a Christian lifestyle in a world gone mad and churches that appear irrelevant.

So, have a wander around my posts and pages. Please leave a question or a comment below or even contact me directly. You can also find me on social media channels too!

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